{"id":3932,"date":"2023-02-18T20:19:55","date_gmt":"2023-02-18T20:19:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ghostcoast.video\/?p=3932"},"modified":"2023-11-16T12:32:36","modified_gmt":"2023-11-16T17:32:36","slug":"chasing-dopamine-makes-the-rest-of-life-hard-to-impossible","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ghostcoast.video\/blog\/chasing-dopamine-makes-the-rest-of-life-hard-to-impossible\/","title":{"rendered":"Chasing Dopamine Makes The Rest Of Life Hard To Impossible"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"block-ef92d3b6802b47e5b144120ba8f4a52e\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Every marketer has a comfort zone, and even though they treat it like a cocoon, it\u2019s more like a coffin to anyone that\u2019s serious about long term, successful action.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-f0a20e2d03f647ed8a4f04f07bfa5c85\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">People will do almost anything to avoid ever being uncomfortable \u2013 under any circumstances.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-86cbaf8f173b499689730afdbcd8e679\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">People won\u2019t introduce themselves to people in their business life or personal life. People won\u2019t exercise for extended periods of time. People won\u2019t avoid foods that they know that is bad for them.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-d0c6423097ac47a1ab9b64ff6c3d9f64\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">People are lovers of pleasure and they hate to work. They hate, hate, HATE to make themselves uncomfortable. But you know what? The work that we put in avoiding ever being uncomfortable hurts us in the long run. It\u2019s not an obvious pain, but whenever we are sharply faced with our lack of resources, our lack of preparation, fear, hurt and anger take hold.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-ebb75327c47d4b08a4a96cf093458baf\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">All of these things can be attributed to times when we could have prepared but instead, we slacked off.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-76a00278945245fe9cb8e6f8b7800aa4\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">If you keep doing what you\u2019ve always done, you\u2019ll get what you &#8211; you get my picture here.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-07f40e64d9a54d3481db19a9ce2ae4ff\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\">\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-356543472972409caf491286654e5663\" class=\"notion-image page-width\"><picture><source srcset=\"https:\/\/super-static-assets.s3.amazonaws.com\/10c18fe4-fb17-42e6-9ca4-e50c71208c2b\/images\/dd2e6930-2212-4aa5-8514-a586926458c5.jpg?w=750&amp;f=webp\" type=\"image\/webp\" media=\"(max-width: 546px)\" \/><source src=\"https:\/\/super-static-assets.s3.amazonaws.com\/10c18fe4-fb17-42e6-9ca4-e50c71208c2b\/images\/dd2e6930-2212-4aa5-8514-a586926458c5.jpg?w=750\" media=\"(max-width: 546px)\" \/><source srcset=\"https:\/\/super-static-assets.s3.amazonaws.com\/10c18fe4-fb17-42e6-9ca4-e50c71208c2b\/images\/dd2e6930-2212-4aa5-8514-a586926458c5.jpg?w=1500&amp;f=webp\" type=\"image\/webp\" \/><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/super-static-assets.s3.amazonaws.com\/10c18fe4-fb17-42e6-9ca4-e50c71208c2b\/images\/dd2e6930-2212-4aa5-8514-a586926458c5.jpg?w=1500\" alt=\"image\" width=\"1500\" \/><\/picture><\/div>\n<h1 id=\"block-a37dffb1aac14cf9b466c055d1eac38f\" class=\"notion-heading\"><span id=\"a37dffb1aac14cf9b466c055d1eac38f\" class=\"notion-heading__anchor\"><\/span><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\"><strong>So Why Don\u2019t We Make Changes?<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n<div id=\"block-4e39f47b9e6d4a1ca4d021228302e114\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Bafflingly a lot of people are completely willing to accept getting what they\u2019ve already got.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-bb2f6b4ec2c14860b57db1d13de5e229\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">They will say that they want more money. They say that they want better contacts. They say they want to bill their list, but what they really have PROVEN they want with the ACTION they\u2019ve displayed consistently is the status quo.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-38f6891635114144af396a825a06ba1e\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">They set themselves in a very disturbing loop of hating the status quo that they\u2019re in motivating themselves just enough to start to take action, feeling the pain of that action (because any serious change causes discomfort along the way), and sliding back down to their original state. How are you going to overcome that as you build your business?<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-b1b6f440e13f4255a889369acddae721\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\"><em>\u201cWe can take massive action when we are afraid.\u201d<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<h1 id=\"block-42233ab4be574f9184a82339b3b972d0\" class=\"notion-heading\"><span id=\"42233ab4be574f9184a82339b3b972d0\" class=\"notion-heading__anchor\"><\/span><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">When Your Back Is Against The Wall\u2026 <\/span><\/h1>\n<div id=\"block-6c170ea55cd84f028f37e28d1020474b\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">I would tell you you\u2019ve got to embrace the fear.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-dcf1e85233074b90a4041e1ba90807db\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">We can take massive action when we are afraid. When we have a back against the wall mentality.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-2847281fcfd1457ba65fa73a1b2da8df\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">When was the last time that you were truly, deeply afraid? I\u2019m not talking about when you watched a spooky movie or little Japanese girl with stringy hair jumped at you from inside the TV.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-82a3d795284e4beb8b6282da0ec8f2c2\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">I\u2019m talking about a real fear that challenged the heart of who you define yourself as a person. When there was an action that you were simply afraid to take.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-e08f6041ed124fe893916484d50c96a4\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Did you defy the fear and take action anyway?<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-095cfb83cf34431797b2d44c1533139f\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">I\u2019ve got a radical concept for you to think about.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-47bbf295f5fd4676b1fbe00b18f413a9\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Fear is an evolutionary function that is becoming obsolete for humanity. Think about the biological reasons for fear. For almost the entirety of human existence on this planet, we needed fear as a survival mechanism. We wouldn\u2019t walk into the forest because fear would tell us there\u2019s a bear in the forests. We wouldn\u2019t drink from a river because we knew that there is something scary in the river that is going to jump out at us.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-284ede46568f459da99f63dd5b5c5215\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">But if you live in the first world today in 2013 you realistically do not have a lot to be afraid of. Sure there is a chance that you get hit by a bolt of lightning or run over by a car or a bus.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-a834031d62d4498ba47be226eaff6c3c\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">But really, you probably never been truly close to death from malnutrition, from the lack of medicine or from starvation. You have been hungry before but the odds are you\u2019ve never been close to starving. It is very difficult for somebody in the first world to experience the serious fear of physical pain, sickness or death \u2013 the only fear that a human being should respect.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<h1 id=\"block-0721b892a5ff47fca30024ce85ee764a\" class=\"notion-heading\"><span id=\"0721b892a5ff47fca30024ce85ee764a\" class=\"notion-heading__anchor\"><\/span><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\"><strong>The Invention Of Fear<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n<div id=\"block-931da5cdd18945cbb82cd8d6420f9fdc\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">So instead we invent fear. We create fear in our lives to fill the gap. Because it\u2019s been healthy for us.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-fdef845fcab745868b37c421b32dd49c\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">We fear things that are not really scary. We fear speaking to people. We fear being alone, whether that\u2019s emotionally or physically. We fear not being understood and we built these fears up so that we fear them in the same way that we fear death.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-47a73eb51683438d97b6563001af44ca\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Like I said a long time ago, this was good. This was essential.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-ec989c6c2fcb4ce9a2653aeb4634122b\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">But it isn\u2019t anymore.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-7e8aa824037c4a569db8dfad927c7493\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">We have higher desires. We have the desires of the spirit and the soul. When you think about your hopes, the thing that fights fear, the thing that stands against fear. That part of you that makes you stand against risk, that comes from your soul.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-ffb596c1007444bd88bf6a48c22daee5\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Your soul wants to provide a better life for your children. Your soul wants to be a better friend, a better husband, and a better father. Your soul wants you to take action and make the most out of your life.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-0897e08503ab4cd8b18df101906fc5f1\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">So that fear, that lizard brain is constantly in battle with our higher selves. Is not that fear hates you. It does not want to kill you \u2013 it actually wants the opposite, it wants to keep you alive at any cost. In the status quo you might be fat, you might be broke and you might be miserable but you are alive and that is all that fear wants.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-b2c8fddb68134e53b2e277f812501482\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">But you want more out of your life than just putting in oxygen and putting out carbon dioxide.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-9ef20187b9474ba38153b4495df85655\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Your soul is the top of that mythical pyramid of desires.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-beedc4b4bf3b4e2cb0d5a440c60039b4\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">It is self actualization. It is meaning on the highest level, and this can make you happier than just merely being alive. Your soul can find happiness when you act on what you desire. That\u2019s what I want from you.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<h1 id=\"block-b4e401700a8f41d5ba2028b54e293117\" class=\"notion-heading\"><span id=\"b4e401700a8f41d5ba2028b54e293117\" class=\"notion-heading__anchor\"><\/span><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Make A Promise To Yourself\u2026 <\/span><\/h1>\n<div id=\"block-56c1ea4e3f7240ef821a0ca3cbcd1244\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">I want you to act. <\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-621ea50b425f41d687b36f44a159c1d0\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">I\u2019m willing to bet that there\u2019s something that\u2019s you know that you should be doing, that your soul wants you to do, but that your fear is keeping you from doing. Maybe it\u2019s writing those emails. Maybe it\u2019s writing those blog posts, maybe it\u2019s putting yourself on video. Maybe it\u2019s making phone calls.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-5de0fb7c8bb143d69fc232f3848e6727\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">But make yourself a promise today that you\u2019re going to change and that you\u2019re going to fight fear with your actions. If you\u2019re scared to write something, write it. If you are scared to make a video, put yourself on camera. If you\u2019re scared to fight for the life that you know that you deserve, take the time right now and put your fists up and fight for it. 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