{"id":3936,"date":"2023-02-18T20:25:56","date_gmt":"2023-02-18T20:25:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ghostcoast.video\/?p=3936"},"modified":"2023-11-16T14:02:58","modified_gmt":"2023-11-16T19:02:58","slug":"when-is-relaxation-really-avoidance","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ghostcoast.video\/blog\/when-is-relaxation-really-avoidance\/","title":{"rendered":"When Is Relaxation Really Avoidance?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"block-d0a19e4663304707a0c839c43729c448\" class=\"notion-image page-width\"><picture><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/super-static-assets.s3.amazonaws.com\/10c18fe4-fb17-42e6-9ca4-e50c71208c2b\/images\/968abb41-e578-4e8d-9e87-80ccd84325c6.jpg?w=1500\" alt=\"image\" width=\"1500\" \/><\/picture><\/div>\n<div id=\"block-f59ea546668b424b8ba59f66aa76582f\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">When is it \u201crelaxing\u201d and when is it \u201cavoidance?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-a5bb125ffbfd4663b0e872ecb23cb45c\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">You\u2019re always making strategic decisions about what to prioritize, and everything you do as an entrepreneur can have some negative self talk attached to it.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-945715cd1cea4cf4a53da76c3b364868\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">They hired a PR person, or a social media person, or a content person, and they found that the person they hired didn\u2019t have a care and commitment that matched their own.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-e95b4b23ea5441b5b2109d62d170f671\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">And so people \u201csilently\u201d move their priorities to something that makes them comfortable &#8211; and avoids the thing that\u2019s traumatizing them.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-57209512f53c48b0b911863465da781b\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">And &#8211; whatever logjams exist in a one-person business tend to exist in that person\u2019s own brain.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-4d789ab41e6849c1a3e872b627d89e85\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">So, how can you get out of your own way?<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<h1 id=\"block-8f642b83892d4cb5952bedf873a4fe75\" class=\"notion-heading\"><span id=\"8f642b83892d4cb5952bedf873a4fe75\" class=\"notion-heading__anchor\"><\/span><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\"><span class=\"highlighted-color color-green\">I\u2019m Brandyn Buchanan.<\/span><\/span><\/h1>\n<div id=\"block-0c7f0b8b46c9407f892c60bc8baaac73\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">I help coaches + consultants:<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<ul class=\"notion-bulleted-list\">\n<li id=\"block-8655e7749735405fafe3b57b88e05db6\" class=\"notion-list-item\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\"><strong>Create Authentic Media:<\/strong>\u00a0Using social media to create leverage in life, connect with clients and partners, and build more free time.<\/span><\/li>\n<li id=\"block-ec70574da86343deb7c9dddd35c5b64f\" class=\"notion-list-item\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\"><strong>High Performance Growth:<\/strong>\u00a0Quickly make funnels, products, memberships, and mailing lists with simple tools that\u00a0<em>work together<\/em>.<\/span><\/li>\n<li id=\"block-4adbb8840bc44095a0d946f53311c287\" class=\"notion-list-item\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\"><strong>Create Your Reality:<\/strong>\u00a0Achieve time and lifestyle freedom: Very few people want to work more than 2-4 hours of work a day. I want you to \u201cget in flow\u201d and create the life you love.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h1 id=\"block-1d5079084f3b47eea593da75471bdc3e\" class=\"notion-heading\"><span id=\"1d5079084f3b47eea593da75471bdc3e\" class=\"notion-heading__anchor\"><\/span><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\"><span class=\"highlighted-color color-orange\">Inside:<\/span><\/span><\/h1>\n<ul class=\"notion-bulleted-list\">\n<li id=\"block-e5cf84ffff0543fa8278bcf62cbd5f03\" class=\"notion-list-item\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Avoidance<\/span><\/li>\n<li id=\"block-beae1fb41de349b39e1b48d510d710f3\" class=\"notion-list-item\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Self-Esteem is Self Regard<\/span><\/li>\n<li id=\"block-e6169c5906e044a1ade6b4b7684f6ec4\" class=\"notion-list-item\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Passwords and Logins<\/span><\/li>\n<li id=\"block-06d04562d4e8477197f7c8c9116348f7\" class=\"notion-list-item\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">The Gumroad Case Study<\/span><\/li>\n<li id=\"block-00f52baf4c334372a735f973ccd7e500\" class=\"notion-list-item\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Childhood vs. Adult Happiness<\/span><\/li>\n<li id=\"block-aefb71aec93b4d4b8d049082f8c3bd0c\" class=\"notion-list-item\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">The \u201cThreadless\u201d Case Study<\/span><\/li>\n<li id=\"block-7f5da2c1f20e439b885c01abea04b711\" class=\"notion-list-item\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Mosaic Atlanta and the Housing Crisis<\/span><\/li>\n<li id=\"block-7ddf610a2267421ab8aea0c6280ec563\" class=\"notion-list-item\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">If You Could Delete Social Media, Would You?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h1 id=\"block-6abc3734c177428ca01c0cbe86673a57\" class=\"notion-heading\"><span id=\"6abc3734c177428ca01c0cbe86673a57\" class=\"notion-heading__anchor\"><\/span><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\"><span class=\"highlighted-color color-green\">Avoidance<\/span><\/span><\/h1>\n<div id=\"block-e18a07c084634239aaaabe6af67a8cd1\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">A lot of people know what they want to do in order to have the life they want &#8211; but anxiety is in the way.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-a91d0229aa354244bdc687143456aa3e\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">The messed up thing is that anxiety co-exists, no matter what, with becoming that better version of yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-8d644c5071124111834431ebbf730f26\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">And it\u2019s not something that goes away.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-ea622c998b5a4845873907ac147e35a8\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">As we get older, life is going to always create new scenarios for us.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<ul class=\"notion-bulleted-list\">\n<li id=\"block-7f5e34acd3c44056b029ab8a46425817\" class=\"notion-list-item\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Approaching women and dealing with fear of rejection.<\/span><\/li>\n<li id=\"block-5eb0afacbb5b4a2fab54bb7c5f90ad91\" class=\"notion-list-item\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Finding happiness in your career and taking the plunge to start something new.<\/span><\/li>\n<li id=\"block-ef7e57f789c946ed857b85513b7dbd77\" class=\"notion-list-item\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Trying new hobbies and risking being bad at them.<\/span><\/li>\n<li id=\"block-7702831df4074ebabda14d6a5764859f\" class=\"notion-list-item\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Making new friends &#8211; especially in your thirties &#8211; just means pulling up to places you\u2019re a stranger and making the first move.<\/span><\/li>\n<li id=\"block-d50bd12255b24e4bb9c782e9df02357d\" class=\"notion-list-item\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Growing your business &#8211; and I can say this as somebody who has worked on a lot of six and seven figure teams &#8211; takes trust in other people.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div id=\"block-35a97ae3db0a4dcfb0f9a0051321b779\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">But really &#8211; what\u2019s the alternative?<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-e9cd259995b442c1ae8c02576d415c78\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Most people who become clients for personal growth coaching are middle aged, <em>and they don\u2019t want to have spent their entire lives ruled by their fears,<\/em> not showing up in life the way they were meant to.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-1ea185a0abed43a6a180c729f39d2b4b\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\"><strong>Being uncomfortable, consistently, is the best way to create a better version of yourself.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-aa45729d557748f2a6309a7f93aa3e34\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">The less willing we are to try things in our personal live, or engage with pain points, the more we stay in our own bubble:<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-8830547aa38449c79258e7b0235b3073\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">And the new things we want don\u2019t come in.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-897828d2805f4ee9bc559bf1648a5f21\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Now your life has gone far away from where you planned because you feared that friction and feared being told no.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-d814aa7d494f4c13a03a1320bfbef361\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Have you read my story about knocking doors during the Georgia election? I\u2019ve had people\u2019s dogs bark at me, I\u2019ve had the cops called on me. It sucked!<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-2df8c23402b642eab1878728429af611\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">But the big benefit of all that, and why I\u2019m thankful for the experience, is that I know that I\u2019m much less caring about being told no, getting called a creep, leave me alone.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-4e291619f5494db69a9c1c6f6cb965ff\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Just mathematically, I must have gotten just a person telling me to my face to leave them alone about fifty times a week.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-93c73674167042d3b20277bdb8ccc4df\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Exposure therapy.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-39673bdbd9544ed2ae59aedea41d8451\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">I don\u2019t care about it anymore.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-36def021e1394e89be85e55548a98c79\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Personally &#8211; I\u2019m always willing to take risks and life with the consequences. The worst that can happen is feeling embarrassment, and only a handful of people will notice or care.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-c373485ce21549fb81f22416b340d82a\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">And I think that&#8217;s how you find the difference in relaxing and avoidance.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-6fff8c7a7b5e4f5e8a015da982db6cd9\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">No matter WHO is convinced in the outside world, you can&#8217;t lie to your own heart.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-ac21e8ef02e7497c9e47d356857c094e\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">If you&#8217;re feeling anxious thinking about it and your \u201crelaxation\u201d hinders around avoiding it, it&#8217;s avoidance.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-31107b9731f145458ca66e1f24bfdd35\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">If you know what\u2019s coming head, have a positive expectation of the future, and know what&#8217;s coming up, taking the hardships as they come, then relax!<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-a59c0590090544b3993ad4272e236c79\" class=\"notion-image page-width\"><picture><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/public-files.gumroad.com\/yjkij6ejqo496u67bgpo9k703lfj\" alt=\"image\" width=\"1500\" \/><\/picture><\/div>\n<h1 id=\"block-caba5f62dede4e5291c515c63d1c222f\" class=\"notion-heading\"><span id=\"caba5f62dede4e5291c515c63d1c222f\" class=\"notion-heading__anchor\"><\/span><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\"><span class=\"highlighted-color color-green\">Self Esteem Is Self Regard.<\/span><\/span><\/h1>\n<div id=\"block-b1dbb3fc7ccc4b5482995085a51cb84a\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">It\u2019s self-regard, and knowing you can handle the weird twists and turns that make up your life.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-8098c2c7bc06405bb6861d65fc018c1b\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">And, the more you need to do something to get to the next stage in your life, the more unknown it\u2019s going to be, the more you\u2019re going to have to battle old anxieties and ideas.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-4d46d332b253442ab658b643a61f63c3\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">As an entrepreneur, you really have so much choice over where and what you\u2019re going to build &#8211; whether it\u2019s traffic or products or publishing.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-77a5c2f58394435389436f6cb6886dc5\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">So whatever you\u2019re lacking in your business could VERY well be some kind of avoidance. I haven\u2019t published a lot of my own work under my own name &#8211; I guess always feeling that I needed a whole suite of courses and products like the people I worked for.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-55a5b653813c402fa8f69944da948ee7\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Well first of all &#8211; when it comes to product creation &#8211; there\u2019s really no time like the present.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-b3797a7d546c482695849e06851fb470\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">I\u2019ve got a strong advantage in that I\u2019ve made LOTS of information products for other people &#8211; like assembly line style &#8211; so I know how to get the good together and present the strongest parts &#8211; kinda like I\u2019m doing now.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<h1 id=\"block-78936d1680b04c7d8566273bb87ef156\" class=\"notion-heading\"><span id=\"78936d1680b04c7d8566273bb87ef156\" class=\"notion-heading__anchor\"><\/span><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\"><span class=\"highlighted-color color-green\">Passwords and Logins<\/span><\/span><\/h1>\n<div id=\"block-85badd7c291447e9a118f7cf7e1dde0f\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">They\u2019re brutally hard to keep track of.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-fc53adffc101461aac5b0fa09e291410\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\"><strong>The service I use to keep track of everything is Bitwarden!<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-e6903456d98b451b9646df3c0413fd52\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">And uhhhh, I hope you don\u2019t mind me not sharing my screencaptures here or anything!<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-41de383dfd7540c6b30a94095af7d6d6\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">The best way to create a password is to use a full sentence &#8211; and when I say a full sentence I mean, something that\u2019s at least 4 words, maybe including a word that\u2019s nonsense. Think of weird sayings or inside jokes that only you and a relative or friend know.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-77a604c569b4467fb22025594c9e4e6c\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Now you add a couple numbers or symbols, and you\u2019re completely secure &#8211; unless you just give the password away to people.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-8f1bf967e9de44809f99cc74adcd989b\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Now, what happens when you\u2019re actually using your logins on a dozen different websites?<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-d8ad13e96bc04848a74f889697f3071e\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Well, in these situations, you can easily use this service:<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-54998960a8dd4471a109e512d4336845\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\"><a class=\"notion-link link\" href=\"https:\/\/simplelogin.io\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">https:\/\/simplelogin.io\/<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-5ea15879e0694d8aafe5680d648317dc\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">This is SimpleLogin from the folks at ProtonMail &#8211;<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-ed55c79684e649d59d8875fa45c06d53\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">And hand to God, it\u2019s saved me so much time and stress &#8211; consolidating a LOT of passwords from a lot of email addresses into one place. WHEW.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-653f667ba20d49838adff68d94190c9f\" class=\"notion-image page-width\"><picture><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/public-files.gumroad.com\/kwq1xgix1lwxq38f3uvheq6csr5v\" alt=\"image\" width=\"1500\" \/><\/picture><\/div>\n<h1 id=\"block-054c3d4ec50d4ad4a3f332597ea063bf\" class=\"notion-heading\"><span id=\"054c3d4ec50d4ad4a3f332597ea063bf\" class=\"notion-heading__anchor\"><\/span><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\"><span class=\"highlighted-color color-green\">The Gumroad Case Study<\/span><\/span><\/h1>\n<div id=\"block-e06bba762a8240dd8187a9e22647e5e8\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">I\u2019m in \u201cbuild in public\u201d mode right now &#8211; but I do like having a little buffer of actually useful content. By the time most people see this on social media, it\u2019ll be a week or so.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-d56be1167f3c4f7fa736e4b91602a7dc\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">One things I\u2019m working on is getting my work on Gumroad. I definitely use other platforms &#8211; and I\u2019m a fan of GoHighLevel &#8211; but Gumroad\u2019s got a lot of the basic features I use the most &#8211; that\u2019s just automation and continuing support for emails\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-fa64e9dd486a4152b572236ab1524e0e\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">And it\u2019s free &#8211; so it\u2019ll hopefully remove my incentive to move my tech stack when I find some new piece of technology!<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-5b989eb0e6df4a41888809ad3ae2fb71\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">So, a few things I did on Gumroad this week &#8211;<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<ol class=\"notion-numbered-list\" type=\"1\">\n<li id=\"block-7107e382dc314b148c9579e8963154f2\" class=\"notion-list-item\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Uploading and creating info products.<\/span><\/li>\n<li id=\"block-ff746173a9e145f495be00f83f2e6330\" class=\"notion-list-item\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Email support.<\/span><\/li>\n<li id=\"block-bd815dd9dd1845ed9b93490c490e8d6e\" class=\"notion-list-item\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Graphics &#8211; some pretty smooth ones on Canva.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<div id=\"block-5474321738374e55aad6688f3f5d3fac\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">You can see the results on the website.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-61cadf08a3d343648311e9dd0c127511\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Those products work and you can buy them &#8211; there&#8217;s also follow-up messaging from me that goes deeper into my expertise. Wow, that\u2019s actually a <strong>lot. I\u2019ll get into it later.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-ec6d052894fc49cd8a47b73e2830cd84\" class=\"notion-embed\">\n<div class=\"notion-embed__content\">\n<div class=\"notion-embed__container__wrapper\">\n<div class=\"LazyLoad is-visible notion-embed__container\"><iframe title=\"grantparkagency.gumroad.com\" src=\"https:\/\/grantparkagency.gumroad.com\/\" frameborder=\"0\" sandbox=\"allow-scripts allow-popups allow-forms allow-same-origin allow-top-navigation-by-user-activation\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" data-mce-fragment=\"1\"><\/iframe><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-5459fd6eca54480196325ed797fedb97\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\">\n<\/div>\n<h1 id=\"block-9f684483b8104a3aa4f4d7c03c3995f2\" class=\"notion-heading\"><span id=\"9f684483b8104a3aa4f4d7c03c3995f2\" class=\"notion-heading__anchor\"><\/span><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\"><span class=\"highlighted-color color-green\">Childhood And Adult Happiness<\/span><\/span><\/h1>\n<div id=\"block-56ca9587c8154a4e91af58a97268a6eb\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">So, at what age do we start to create limitations for ourselves?<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-b27b368d66da4b7abfa322473db3d603\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Well, when do we start getting told no?<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-d9e8c4790eec4c1c9ccd9b318742e6d0\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Our parents give us limitations when we\u2019re young.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-d8178655900a4358894791a192d68496\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">And it\u2019s for a good reason &#8211; if you start thinking and feeling \u201cunlimited\u201d as a baby, you might stick a fork in an electrical outlet or something.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-0f2697c3aac541e2903b88bc96dd14f3\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">But children are all about internalizing things &#8211; and we internalize the limits from our parents, friends and peers very easily.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-049d41bdb8dc4ca78fa4077ef16a5485\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">As kids, we take things way too seriously!<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-049d6c0af9974164af230d1c2ad36720\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">The way we internalize childhood and family trauma are instrumental to how we see this life.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-2b0853c7922849a98487e08076d6f9c1\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Our actions in the outer world often follow the paths we program in our inner world.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-4388a77cbae4490798ddad8781b152f9\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Figuring out what that programming is, and where that programming come from &#8211; THAT is the subject of a lot of psychological study.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-f7701e384eb349eca533483f32b8eb89\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">But spotting and breaking through <em><strong>your limitations are a constant tool in creating a life you love.<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-a2ff38f50193487480574057ba90c040\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">And also for using business as a vessel for creating the life you want.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-d7f9a4af22cc4bb5beb678a36862c000\" class=\"notion-image page-width\"><picture><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/public-files.gumroad.com\/tl3zcvkbolc5jog9zopbq88oohao\" alt=\"image\" width=\"1500\" \/><\/picture><\/div>\n<h1 id=\"block-c48cb416cf44453285ae79acce2b441d\" class=\"notion-heading\"><span id=\"c48cb416cf44453285ae79acce2b441d\" class=\"notion-heading__anchor\"><\/span><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\"><span class=\"highlighted-color color-green\">The \u201cThreadless\u201d Case Study<\/span><\/span><\/h1>\n<div id=\"block-53981508b2f3478996da3b8eff8b5cce\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Do you remember my Kindle Cash Flow case study?<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-b20a482a2c8a4ccc95e4fc14ef58b8ea\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">We used WooCommerce as the main platform &#8211; but I\u2019ve done some awesome work on Threadless for non-profits.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-efebe5a965e149049ab353f00d413a71\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Threadless handles all of the printing and shipping.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-d193af0cf71e4b5aa2d37df76d62f4f4\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">If you have a small and devoted following online, or you have a cause that people care about &#8211; create a few designs! A little money raised can cause a big difference.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-78906ab92ad141feb1d8751578743fb1\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">It\u2019s also really useful if you\u2019re a coach that\u2019s got sayings, or a podcast that\u2019s come across a lot of golden quotes and ideas.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-9b386ee853ed43999f1ee87b1aef551d\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">The fastest way to get this kind of work done is to hire a designer &#8211; especially if you\u2019re not a Photoshop wizard or anything.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-3f8a4dc721114295bd6e1262c8ddf7ba\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">You can look at the Threadless store I have in progress here:<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-b87e89d384024229a2ed2baf5551794a\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">At the time of this writing, there are only three pieces, but you can likely expect more to come in the future.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-59aea3aa430f43f48f8ef85070a2b036\" class=\"notion-embed\">\n<div class=\"notion-embed__content\">\n<div class=\"notion-embed__container__wrapper\">\n<div class=\"LazyLoad is-visible notion-embed__container\"><iframe title=\"storygrowth.threadless.com\" src=\"https:\/\/storygrowth.threadless.com\/\" frameborder=\"0\" sandbox=\"allow-scripts allow-popups allow-forms allow-same-origin allow-top-navigation-by-user-activation\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" data-mce-fragment=\"1\"><\/iframe><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<h1 id=\"block-0ac46e7fac714c99a2eac8b9cba99610\" class=\"notion-heading\"><span id=\"0ac46e7fac714c99a2eac8b9cba99610\" class=\"notion-heading__anchor\"><\/span><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\"><span class=\"highlighted-color color-green\">Mosaic Atlanta and The Housing Crisis<\/span><\/span><\/h1>\n<div id=\"block-1b6fef4167ae4b1490176a93dd67ed2d\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">My new style is to just share what I&#8217;m working on in real life, and it usually meshes up with things I have experience doing.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-7f036f3f39dd4e81b6e1dd1c47d87635\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">A lot of the time it&#8217;s business related, but also, I like taking a bus and riding around Atlanta, meeting local businesses and seeing sights.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-3dbb54e7b2e543ec87ab72f63c558ace\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">It&#8217;s absolutely jaw dropping how much homelessness there is in Atlanta, right across the street from City Hall.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-992001f2eaec4782b9d0b5ae3caf75b2\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Places like the Gateway Center try to stem the tide but the economy is terrible. People are always left out no matter what.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-ba96c6beb5ed4d198437be6e6906c08a\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">If you live here, you know how the situation is.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-a4f8a2d85be04365a6ac4b9bdfa70aa5\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">It&#8217;s great to see people in the community just treat the people there with respect and autonomy.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-9e2cbecab5a74c45a85d73d510f8fe05\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">I always encourage people who can to donate to organizations like Mosaic Atlanta who are responding to this stuff in a humane way and treating people with dignity and autonomy.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-a18e17baadba41f389c467f7c8f3b5b1\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">They\u2019ve got a matching fund where you donate and they buy warming supplies for the unhoused population. No muss no fuss.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-10a925d2cded49f191c973a49720071e\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Can&#8217;t say anybody can fix everything, but your money goes right to helping people who are impacted &#8211; more than something from the \u201cnon profit industrial complex\u201d might.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-b6e73fc541ad42468fd1f0777fc61a4c\" class=\"notion-image page-width\"><picture><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/public-files.gumroad.com\/yboiy5w4u7xw7y78w7myvw658utu\" alt=\"image\" width=\"1500\" \/><\/picture><\/div>\n<h1 id=\"block-8cbd8a766d3e4c14af98b6486e27548f\" class=\"notion-heading\"><span id=\"8cbd8a766d3e4c14af98b6486e27548f\" class=\"notion-heading__anchor\"><\/span><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\"><span class=\"highlighted-color color-green\">If You Could Delete Social Media, Would You?<\/span><\/span><\/h1>\n<div id=\"block-65b238a4018740a49329eeebfb48f7b5\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">I recently watched an interview from a social media guy named Tank Sinatra &#8211;<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-dff9114ee69a4b57b1148f55f9ef7701\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">And like, I don\u2019t know, I don\u2019t name these guys.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-b0fe4632fc6e4148818d1c1902cc49c8\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Anyway, he said, he wouldn\u2019t delete social media. The human race is just starting to process how to integrate this in a healthy way.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-ffa500ffb92b4483b2b6561a300ceda2\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">And technology advances so fast that we might relate to it in a brand new way in a few years &#8211;<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-bfa71e74fa3845278128fa3a5371285f\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">I don\u2019t know.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-49ba12e252ea4b53bb20acd694bb06a9\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\"><strong>Do y\u2019all feel like we\u2019re integrating ANY aspect of modern life in a healthy way?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-4ec2244213024b578cf44da815d8c992\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">I definitely feel like social media can be a powerful tool for individual or group fulfillment &#8211; but if we\u2019re looking at the case for it on that \u201cbig scale\u201d human level\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-cecaac63ad2c40bfa0ea4bc1d00af90a\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Can we create a more humane social media?<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-29ebda162e184e3aa6dc69f15b425916\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">I think right now, people getting the most from social media are extremely disciplined as both consumers and producers.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-f50ae5a5736e44ada1502655802444f1\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">I know that\u2019s the case with me. I\u2019ve been talking about doing a podcast &#8211; and the idea of creating exactly and only the most interesting and highly valuable content has constantly been on my mind.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"block-3335277052dd4a7f9f8fcaacbc323944\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">Not that there can\u2019t be room to deviate, but having that kind of content together would be powerful.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<h1 id=\"block-68b154ec450240e6b3896bdb87d9ac8d\" class=\"notion-heading\"><span id=\"68b154ec450240e6b3896bdb87d9ac8d\" class=\"notion-heading__anchor\"><\/span><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\"><span class=\"highlighted-color color-green\">I\u2019m Brandyn Buchanan.<\/span><\/span><\/h1>\n<div id=\"block-1174aa33a1e64dd78c232080b599d8aa\" class=\"notion-text\">\n<p class=\"notion-text__content\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\">I help coaches + consultants:<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<ul class=\"notion-bulleted-list\">\n<li id=\"block-b823bf27b5854ff1aede3a02e96fab87\" class=\"notion-list-item\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\"><strong>Your Creative Space:<\/strong> Social media for building leverage, attracting like-minds, and \u201cgetting your name out there\u201d.<\/span><\/li>\n<li id=\"block-92ff5e833ceb4b46944ee6549a4829ab\" class=\"notion-list-item\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\"><strong>High Performance Growth:<\/strong> Quickly make funnels, products, memberships, and mailing lists with simple tools that <em>work together<\/em>.<\/span><\/li>\n<li id=\"block-45d0ccf40375403eabd203ecb3f3ec10\" class=\"notion-list-item\"><span class=\"notion-semantic-string\"><strong>Create Your Reality:<\/strong> Achieve time and lifestyle freedom: Very few people want to work more than 2-4 hours of work a day. 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